Hiding Admission From Children?

Many parents choose not to indulge their children in discussions/activities regarding the admission procedure of various schools. This feeling stems from the fact that if the child begins to ponder over why he wasn’t able to get admission in a certain ‘big’ school, it could jeopardise his/her self-image/confidence. However, most parents find it difficult to hide such facts from their children.

The reason is simple — children today are smart enough to figure out if they have been rejected or not. Seeing their parents running frantically from one school to another, submitting the admission forms and the look of despair when the admission isn’t entertained leaves no unsolved mystery for the child. Some, psychiatrists though believe that children shouldn’t be kept in the dark about such information. Instead, children should be pre-prepared for such a transition and I in dealing with the forthcoming failures/rejections — playschool to a formal school, which may or may not be of the parents’ choice.

Children should be made to understand that the design or the size of the school, that usually does get a child fixated on a particular school, really doesn’t matter and that he/she would eventually make new friends and have caring teachers. For this purpose, it is suggested that children shouldn’t be taken along to each school when seeking admission. This could confuse the child’s judgement or make him obsessive about a certain kind of school. It is best to apply to a good number of schools and take the child to only those schools where his/her candidature is most likely to be accepted.

Common Mistakes Parents Do While Handling Children

Parents often find it hard to handle the problems related to teens. It is the age when the children undergo behavioural changes as they rapidly progress towards adolescence. There are many times when the parents and the children have to face unusual situations. Proper handling of all matters at this age is crucial as the reaction of parents may directly affect the behaviour of the child.

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Here are some common mistakes that parents often commit while handling their teens.

Preach But Do Not Practice – It is one of the most common problems that make things all the more worse. Parents preach and lecture a lot, but do not follow their own preaching. Teens are very sensitive in nature and in this age they try to discover their own identity and want to be more independent. Make sure that you follow your own preaching; else you may fall into very embarrassing situation if pointed by your teen.

Too Busy To Spend Time With Them – Teenagers need guidance the most. They reach a stage where personality development and character building takes a shape. Parents who do not devote enough time to their children at this age often repent later.

Expect Too Much – Parents are well aware of the capabilities of their child. Setting unrealistic goals for them and expecting more than their capabilities puts extra pressure on them. Demanding parents are more likely to commit such mistakes.

Ignore the Warning Signals – Often parents fail to pick unusual behaviour and sudden changes in their child’s daily routine. Sleeping late night, sudden regress in school grades, drowsiness are some of the alarming signals that every parent must take care of. Teens at this age are more prone to indulge in smoking, drinking, drugs and sex. A vigilant parent should be able to pick any suspicious behaviour in their child and should take appropriate action.

Protection after Doing Wrong – Some parents protect their children even if the children have done some wrong or are caught in a wrong practice. This encourages the child, especially teenager, to go ahead with such practices.

Child Beating – Some parents go to the extent that they actually beat their child. One slap in such a sensitive age can change the whole life of the child. Beating never helps and is considered to be rather an awful practice. It is better to have a verbal argument with the child than go for such a dire step.

Secret To Create A Stress Free Environment For Your Kids

At times your child may feel stressed and uncomfortable if proper environment is not provided. Following are some tips to create a stress free environment in your home.

Allow and Invite Friends – Do not hesitate to let your child socialize with his friends and invite them to the house. It develops a social circle, which is very essential for healthy growth of your child.

Celebrate Occasions – Not just birthdays, but celebrate every little occasion in the house, whether painting of house has completed or new area of home yard has been developed. Celebrating every moment of life strengthens the bond between family members.

Family Dinner – It is one of the most important practices that every family must follow as a daily routine. Dinner table is the best place to discuss and opine about family matters. Everyone can share their experiences of the day and can exchange useful ideas.

Helping Hand – Every member of the family should look forward to contribute in any way to create a harmonic environment.

Reasons to Laugh – Doctors say, “Laughter is the best medicine”. Watch some funny TV shows with your children and crack jokes at the teatime. It helps in diffusing any tension in the house and develops a happy atmosphere at home.

Listen and Reciprocate – Always listen to your child. Children often get dejected because their parents are too busy with the work and household chores. Parents have to listen to their children and also respond in a way that makes them feel that their problem or issue was properly addressed.

Don’t Take a Side – Children get more frustrated if they find the parents supporting the sibling. Don’t involve yourself when the children are competing or contending. Remain neutral and advise all of them at the same time.

Don’t Micromanage at home – You may miss on some details and allow the children to take care of them. The children must feel free to express themselves. Overindulgence makes the children feel irritated. But, maintain a close watch.

Yoga – Practicing Yoga will make your child feel stress free and healthy. Parents themselves can take the initiative and lead them to healthy routines.

Impact Of Media: Teaching Teens To Handle It Rightly

Today almost every teen in metropolis and even in small towns has access to media channels (Internet, cell-phones, television) and they are used to it. A recent study by Gartner Group shows that teens are spending on an average 44.5 hours per week browsing Internet, talking on cell phones and watching TV. It is more than what they spend in school in whole week. The issue is not just the amount of time spent, but also what they are getting from these media channels.

Make Your Move

Teens hate to be monitored every minute by their parents. They are at a very crucial stage of their life and want more freedom & decision making authority for themselves. Keeping a watch on their activities requires some tricks and a lot of patience.

Good and Bad Content

It is not debatable as whether the content on the popular channels or media like Internet is appropriate or not. People have been debating over issues like moral policing of the children. Modernization has been confused with values and norms, resulting in the inculcation of negative behavioural traits in the new generation of youngsters.

Internet – bane or boon

The content on the Internet has been the most abused as viewing restrictions are not applicable. No doubt, the technology has changed the outlook and the learning capacity of the children, but numerous cases of abuse of the content have also been reported.

Parental Help

For monitoring the Internet activities of your children you can install software like KeyLogger. Parents who are more aware about technology can use the service and set a simple filter to block porn sites or sites containing inappropriate content. Creating a day schedule from early childhood solves most of the problems. Unfortunately, most parents do not pay attention to it. It is always advisable to give some space to your teen and at the same time be vigilant about his activities.

The safe use and misuse of technology will always be an issue. But, there is a lot we can do to prevent our children from falling into the wrong activities.